The Balanced Nest Podcast  ·  Episode 8

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This one might ruffle some feathers. I don’t do talk therapy. I’m not a fan of it. I don’t think it works well for most people and I definitely don’t think it gets to the root of most things — and I say that after doing years of it myself and after working with clients who came to me having already exhausted it.

This isn’t a criticism of the people who practice it or the people who find value in it. This is me being honest about where I stand after years of working with a completely different approach.

The Core Problem With Talk Therapy

Here’s my issue. You can talk about a wound forever. You can understand exactly where it came from, what it connected to, how it shaped you, what patterns it created. You can have profound insight into your own psychology — and still not be able to change the behavior. Still feel the same way in trigger moments. Still react the same way you always have.

Insight lives in your head. The pattern lives in your body. The nervous system doesn’t speak the language of understanding — it speaks the language of experience. And until you give the body a different experience, until that stuck energy actually moves, the pattern stays.

Your brain doesn’t control your entire existence. Understanding something and releasing the energy around it are two completely different things. Talk therapy is good for a little while — it can help you understand what you’re working with. But it’s not where the actual shift happens for most people.

What Stagnant Energy Actually Is

I know that when people who haven’t worked with this hear terms like trapped emotions or stuck energy, there’s skepticism. And honestly, I get it. I’m still a skeptic myself — my curiosity always wins but my human brain still sometimes can’t fully believe this is reality, even after years of watching it work.

Here’s the simple version. When something happens that’s too overwhelming for the system to process in the moment — a trauma, a loss, a repeated experience of not being safe or not being seen — the energy of that experience gets stored in the body. In the tissues. In the nervous system. Very literally.

And that stored energy creates a kind of background noise that affects everything. How you respond to your kids. How you handle conflict. What happens in your body when someone raises their voice or needs something from you. You can understand all of this intellectually and it still doesn’t move until the body gets to complete the cycle it started.

Why I Don’t Have One Method

My approach is probably different from most things you’ve heard about. I work intuitively, which means I read what your system needs in the moment and pull from whatever modality is going to serve it best. Not the same process for every person. Not one protocol.

Sometimes that’s biodynamic craniosacral therapy — working with the body’s own rhythms to create deep settling in the nervous system. Sometimes it’s Emotion Code, identifying and releasing specific trapped emotions stored energetically in the body. Sometimes it’s somatic work, helping you locate where an experience lives physically and giving it space to complete and release.

And sometimes it’s a method I’ve developed myself called Energetic Pendulation Therapy, where I walk you through parts of your body like it’s a museum, describing what each side holds and letting the body find its own equilibrium through that pendulation.

I mix somatics into everything because the body is always in the room and it’s always telling us something.

What all of these share is the same underlying philosophy. I’m not directing your healing. I’m not analyzing what’s wrong with you or telling you what your patterns mean. I’m creating the conditions for your own system to do what it already knows how to do — which is heal. It heals when it has enough space and safety to do so.

I’m also a little suspicious of any practitioner who says one modality is the answer for everyone. Not all systems are the same, and what unlocks something for one person might not be the doorway for you at all.

Who This Work Is Actually For

The people who find their way to this kind of work have usually done a lot of other things first. They’ve talked about it. They’ve understood it. They still feel stuck. I wish they’d come here first, honestly, but they’re ready when they arrive — and that readiness matters.

This isn’t for people who want the quick fix or need convincing. I’m not fixing anybody. I’m holding up mirrors. This is for people who are actually willing to do the work — and willing to sit with the fact that as you go deeper into this, things come up. It’s not always pretty. It’s messy. I send my clients journaling prompts after sessions because the work doesn’t all release right then and there — the body needs a few days to continue processing. That’s part of it.

How Your Own Energetic Work Affects Your Kids

When you start releasing what’s been stored in your own body, something shifts in how you show up for your family. You have more room. More capacity. You respond instead of react more often. The things that used to trigger you stop having the same electric charge.

And your kids feel that. They are always feeling the state of your nervous system, whether you’re aware of it or not. When yours starts to settle, theirs can too. That is real family healing — and it starts with you.

If you’re curious about working with me or learning more about this approach, come find us in the Balanced Nest community on Skool — comment CONNECT on any episode or go to skool.com/the-balanced-nest-1542. And run your free Human Design chart at balancednest.com/chart.

Your family is worth the work.